Being Flawsome: Embracing Imperfection to Enjoy Life More


If you have any contact with social media, you've noticed how everyone is striving to be perfect. Suddenly you can’t post a selfie without at least one filter or go out for dinner without showing your curated plate of food. Even your dog has to look perfect.

What if we just decided to take a step away from all the competition, all that clamoring for likes and hearts? What if we chose merely to enjoy your life without sharing it with the world? Here’s what I've found helped make me happier with my life

Not judging

You can decide right now to stop analyzing other people, looking for what’s wrong with their their body or their life choices. What if we refocus our attitudes, so we stop seeing a differences as  flaws but as merely something that makes that person unique?

How does that process impact how we see ourselves?

 Accept imperfection

Wanting to be the best version of ourselves isn’t the same as being a perfectionist. A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look, or how they’re doing. Being your best means you work hard, you try, and you don’t give up. But it doesn’t mean you blame yourself when things aren’t perfect, and you don’t take failure personally.

Relax and enjoy the process

Perfectionists tend to trip over every little detail and allow imperfections to spoil precious moments. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.

Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.

Adopt imperfection as a way of life

Once I made peace with imperfection, I became a lot more objective about life. What once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly doesn’t matter so much. All experiences become just another aspect of a life lived richly, they build the person I am becoming.

Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs. I think about it like this: perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It’s fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth. And then what?  Embracing imperfection means there’s always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.


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